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A broken heart

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I have just suffered the worst thing anyone can go through, a broken heart. It happened today, three or five minutes ago. The girl I wanted to be with more than any other went with someone else.

To keep a point in this thread as I have been instructed, anyone who's gone through the same, please share with us. It might help you feel better.
 
Saironi, I'm getting tired of dealing with you. This is obviously not a topic for debate, yet you posted it in the debate forum.

*moves*
 
I know how that feels. I only wanted to go on a date with someone before and I find out she's taken. I don't know what to say to do, unless it's just find something that takes your mind off of it.
 
Wake up 'bud.

The world is a cold and heartless place. You're likely never going to find that "one" person. The reason no one can understand "love" is because we created it and set it loose - it is a stupid convention that makes us vulnerable.

That girl and a thousand others are going to break your heart.
 
I take exception to some of the statements made.

Love is one of the most complex, maddening, and joyful emotions we humans can feel. No one denies that when love is lost it hurts. As a divorcée, I know this for a fact. However, I also know that being in love is an exhilarating, wonderful experience, one that I hope to have in the future.

Once love is lost, you need time for yourself. I know I did. But then you need to get out of the emo-angst rut. Just because this someone wasn't your Miss Right doesn't mean that there is absolutely no Miss Right out there for you. Most of you are barely into adulthood and you really cannot expect to have found your soul mate at this point. Give yourselves some time and see what happens.
 
I only said to find something take his mind off of it. I did not say to give up. I still seek someone myself, but I didn't say that because I know it's sometimes better if love finds you, and you're not looking for it.
 
it's sometimes better if love finds you, and you're not looking for it.

The irony is that this is what all my married friends tell me. It happened to my friend Debbie. She wasn't dating anyone, nor was she looking to get married anytime soon but when I had a party and invited my friend Tom, they met, started dating, and--fast forward--they've been married now for 16 years.
 
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I take exception to some of the statements made.

Love is one of the most complex, maddening, and joyful emotions we humans can feel. No one denies that when love is lost it hurts. As a divorcée, I know this for a fact. However, I also know that being in love is an exhilarating, wonderful experience, one that I hope to have in the future.

Once love is lost, you need time for yourself. I know I did. But then you need to get out of the emo-angst rut. Just because this someone wasn't your Miss Right doesn't mean that there is absolutely no Miss Right out there for you. Most of you are barely into adulthood and you really cannot expect to have found your soul mate at this point. Give yourselves some time and see what happens.
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Well I suppose you and I are simply the Eternal Optimist Versus the Eternal Pesimist. And yes, I can't spell.

The base of my point is that NO couple goes to the grave loving eachother as much as they did the day the fell in love. Love is so... temporary...

Yeah, I'm bitter. Anyone would be after being told "I'll love you forever" - only to have that turn into a festering lie upon seeing her in the arms of someone else so soon after it was over. And believe me - I know full well it hurts.

It's just pretty damn hard to recover after you pledged EVERYTHING to someone - your loyalty, your life, your pride, your future... Only to have a person you see as perfect piss all over it. You go into a whirlwind of anger and feelings of betrayl. It's freaking hilarious that you know its not your fault, yet everyday you blame yourself. You crave a return to way things are, yet you feel as if you don't deserve them.

Then you try and move on - only to have people pass you by. They don't give you a second look - they don't even look you in the eyes or even give you the respect that a Human being deserves. You try to be optimistic but after each failure piles up you just angrier and angrier - until you snap.

Why waste your time, when you KNOW even if you get involved again there is a perfect chance of it happening all over again? You can remain alot more stable if you just don't get involved. It's a lonely life, yeah. Do I hate it? Sure. However it seems to be the only way.
 
Saironi said:
I have just suffered the worst thing anyone can go through
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I stopped reading at the point you mentioned what it is.
 
The base of my point is that NO couple goes to the grave loving eachother as much as they did the day the fell in love. Love is so... temporary...

You are so full of it. Seriously, enough with the emo whining. My grandparents celebrates 55 years of marriage before my grandfather died. How dare you insinuate that they didn't love each other anymore? Love grows and intensifies the longer it is shared. That is a fact. And eventually, when you grow up, you might learn it.
 
Very well, point taken. I'm just a whiny-little-brat who has no right to feel the way I do. I won't speak any further on the subject.

And I didn't say they didn't love eachother anymore. My point was the love isn't the same as the raging, passionate, head-over-heels type of love that is arround when a couple first gets together. The love gets more... comfortable.

For some reason the women I've encountered want to ALWAYS have that passionate first-love feeling. So the second it starts getting comfortable - they're gone.
 
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I've never known anyone long enough for the initial attraction to wear off. It's called infatuation. When that happens, there is a question you must ask yourself: "Is there more to this?". You must have a deep connection in order for it to continue. Then it is what I like to call true love. It is not easy to accomplish, and nowadays, it is rare. I will agree that the odds are against such a thing happening. I thought so once as well, and I went through months, maybe even a year or so of crying my eyes out because I didn't think it was possible. Even a little chance is still a chance. You must believe that it can happen for you. So one person didn't reciprocate your love. Big deal. I think every failure can bring you closer to the person that is really meant for you, and yes, I believe in such a thing. Some people take longer to get it right than others. (Like me. :P) Then again, I am a fool in that I've been carried away by my heart dozens of times to have my heart smashed every time. Now I'm very careful not to trust my initial reaction, but I wonder if this is also preventing me from being truly happy. I will not deny love does not work on any logic that exists, but I think that is what makes us better than machines, even if they are smarter than we are.
 
ChaosRocket said:
It's probably because you're an asexual
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Asexual describes an organism that can produce offspring with the assistance of a mate.
Not a homosexual. :l
 
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Asexual describes an organism that can produce offspring with the assistance of a mate.
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I think you meant 'without'. Budding and fission are examples of asexual reproduction.
 
Asexual also means that one doesn't have any desire for sex.
 
Black Widow said:
Asexual describes an organism that can produce offspring with the assistance of a mate.
Not a homosexual. :l
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Someone else already said it, but yeah, an asexual is also a person who has no sexual desires. You can look up some asexual communities online.

And FYI I wasn't just saying that randomly, this guy actually said in another post, when explaining why he doesn't watch porn, that he is an asexual. I am honestly confused about why a self-professed asexual is attempting to date.
 
Because dating someone doesn't have to involve sex. Many people just enjoy the companionship.
 
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