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Does "love at first sight" exist?

Is "love at first sight" a real thing?

  • Yes, I believe this exists.

    Votes: 9 22.0%

  • No, I do not believe this is real.

    Votes: 27 65.9%

  • I'm not sure.

    Votes: 5 12.2%
  • Total voters
    41
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"Love at first sight" is talked about a lot - it's mentioned all the time in movies, on TV, and it's also talked about by people in real life. Do any of you think that something like that actually exists? Can somebody fall in love - actual love - with someone that they only see for the first time, not knowing anything about their personality or beliefs, or is it just the human fixation on appearances taking over their emotions?
 
I think the only way it can be kinda possible is if you are instantly really attracted to a person at first sight and then later realize that you actually love him/her (when you've talked to, or been around the person, perhaps). But I don't think you can truly love someone who you don't know at all purely because you're attracted to them physically. That would probably be a bit naive, maybe?
 
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Essentially what Gatorage said.

There is a difference between lust and love.
 
No. As ^^ said, you might look at a person and say "Wow, they're pretty good-looking," but I don't think you can fall in love with somebody you don't even know.
 
Absolutely not. There's a different word for love at first sight, and it's lust. You cannot fall in love with someone the moment you meet them; you first need to get to know them and discover what kind of person they are, what are their morals and flaws, etc. If you think you're in love with someone at first sight, you're not really. You're in lust.
 
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Absolutely not. There's a different word for love at first sight, and it's lust. You cannot fall in love with someone the moment you meet them; you first need to get to know them and discover what kind of person they are, what are their morals and flaws, etc. If you think you're in love with someone at first sight, you're not really. You're in lust.
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I absolutely agree. That's precisely why the word "lust" exists (well, apart from the fact that we'd be short one Deadly Sin if it didn't :p). It's possible to fall for someone at first sight and then grow to actually love them, but I suspect that that doesn't happen all that often.

My current girlfriend isn't someone I fell for immediately; hell, I knew her for years (not very closely, mind), and I wasn't remotely attracted to her during that time. If we hadn't become close friends, I'm positive that we wouldn't be together right now. It takes time to fall in love with someone, not flash-in-the-pan aesthetic appeal.
 
Why do you guys think that some people might say that something was "love at first sight" - do they not know what actual love feels like, maybe?
 
Corpus Juris Civilis said:
Why do you guys think that some people might say that something was "love at first sight" - do they not know what actual love feels like, maybe?
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I think it's very much possible that they think it was true love at first sight. But as others have pointed out, the initial feeling was most likely lust, which the person might have mistaken for love (since he/she later grew to truly love the other person).
 
Nah, it doesn't exist. Well, you CAN feel attracted to someone you just met. Because their face is beautiful? Because their body looks damn sexy? Because their voice just makes you melt? They could have the factors you'd prefer in your special someone, and you're immediately attracted - but it's more like "Wow, this person has such likable traits!" thing rather than real love.
 
Like Destiny Queen said, I think you can have attraction at first sight. But love? I highly doubt it. I personally think that you should get to know someone and know them for a little while before deciding to even think about taking it farther than friendship. I mean, while you take time to know them, you will see their good days, bad days, etc. It's more than just about the good things. You have to be willing to accept the bad things too.
 
No. Lust at first sight exists. Physical attraction, I mean.

Love is something that develops over time. (*´∀`*) I guess lust falls under that category too, as I didn't find my current boyfriend attractive until we had become close friends, and he's the love of my life now. Funny how things work like that.
 
I've never witnessed it, nor experienced it, nor known anyone who has (and that's a ton of people).

So no. It doesn't happen
 
If I may, I wholeheartedly disagree with the usage of "lust" in place of "love". While I don't agree that "love at first sight" exists, I will say that I was one of those who felt it. While the "love" involved is not what I'd call "true love", it is also not lust, not in the majority of cases. If anything, it's a special kind of physical attraction; an appreciation for someone that embodies physical characteristics that, to you, are aesthetically pleasing.

When I fell "in love at first sight" with a boy in my class, it was based almost solely on his looks. I found him really cute. However, I in no way was thinking about sex. I just thought he was aesthetically pleasing. Can one not find another aesthetically pleasing without sex being involved? I fell "in love" with him because he embodied the physical characteristics I really enjoy in men. Characteristics I enjoy to look at. Characteristics that are, to me, aesthetically pleasing.

By definition, lust is:

Very strong sexual desire.
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A strong desire for sexual gratification.
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Therefore, my "love at first sight" was not lust, and it was also not love. It was simply a strong appreciation for someone who, to me, was aesthetically pleasing to see.
 
I would say no. there's lust, desire, attraction, or even simple interest, but love is deeper than that. Love is a devotion and caring for an individual and that is something you cannot possibly create with just the first meeting. Now, I will say that it's perfectly doable to be highly interested in a person just from a first impression and a few minutes of talking, but I would not call that love.
 
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If I may, I wholeheartedly disagree with the usage of "lust" in place of "love". While I don't agree that "love at first sight" exists, I will say that I was one of those who felt it. While the "love" involved is not what I'd call "true love", it is also not lust, not in the majority of cases. If anything, it's a special kind of physical attraction; an appreciation for someone that embodies physical characteristics that, to you, are aesthetically pleasing.

When I fell "in love at first sight" with a boy in my class, it was based almost solely on his looks. I found him really cute. However, I in no way was thinking about sex. I just thought he was aesthetically pleasing. Can one not find another aesthetically pleasing without sex being involved? I fell "in love" with him because he embodied the physical characteristics I really enjoy in men. Characteristics I enjoy to look at. Characteristics that are, to me, aesthetically pleasing.


Therefore, my "love at first sight" was not lust, and it was also not love. It was simply a strong appreciation for someone who, to me, was aesthetically pleasing to see.
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You are absolutely correct. I know exactly what you're talking about.
 
FF, that's still not love. That's just attraction.
 
True love (whatever that may be) is not at first sight. There's attraction, and there's love. Two different things.
 
Very many factors act in the situation of falling in love from the first sight. These are our ideals, intuition or fast logic, imagination etc. When you fall in love at the first sight you are usually ready and willing to fall in love. Less possibility that it will happen if you are tired, stressed, solving problems in you mind. Of cause the main part in falling in love is given to the appearance, voice, gestures, smell. One person intuitively searches in the other the qualities and the feature to complete him/herself. Of causes beautiful people attract attention the most, but sometimes its wrong to fall in love with them easily because those people are experiencing much attention from the people of the other sex all the time and your delightful reaction may simply have no answers.
 
Yes, yes it totally does. At first sight/meeting, you have already decided what kind of relationship you'd like with that person. Acquintences? Friends? One night stand? Long term relationship? Already decided. Source 1. Source 2.
 
That really only proves that love at first site exists only for certain people. Love is relative. It doesn't mean the same thing to multiple people. But on the whole, you're generally not going to go all Jacob or Bella on someone just with one glance. That's not how it works.

And then there's also the fact that you don't know anything about the person. So you can say what relationship you want with that person from the first encounter, but that doesn't mean that that is how it will end up. Thus, no love.
 
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