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Have you ever lost an online friend and think about them sometimes?

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Just as the title says. Has that ever happened to you?

I've been thinking about some friends I've lost online for a while... Majority of them, 1-5, were from an online PMD game I used to play.

1) Makurayami - I remember how we met, he was pretty much one of the first people I met online in January or February 2012. We kind of dated, but he was mostly inactive due to school IIRC. I drifted apart and he came back... It was a sad day for both of us. I remember he logged on back in November or December 2012 and he was still heartbroken. After that I haven't seen him since. I've tried finding him a few times and failed. I hope he's doing okay.. I miss him.

2) Burresgate - I don't remember too much of her, but I do know she was a fun person to be around! She made me laugh a couple of times back in those days. She left the game to join another game... I don't remember what it was anymore, but I do remember she also had to leave the Internet because of school. Hopefully she's doing well.

3) Ion - He helped me on my second or third day of the game. I always thought of him as a Kadabra. I still remember the last time I saw him. He logged on one day and I called his name a few times, but he never responded and logged off. I was pretty upset after he logged off... Perhaps he forgot to talk or someone else was on his account? Oh well, hope he's doing fine.

4) Celestia123 - She was a fun person to hang around with. She eventually left the game to play another... I forgot what it was. I still remember that one time she said she'll probably regret not getting Skype to add her online friends. Hope she's doing alright.

5) Raem/Deathlocke - We were pretty much on and off in 2013, but eventually called our relationship off. He pretty much disappeared from the Internet. Hopefully he's doing alright.

6) Korrin - I remember he had some problems... Eventually he just removed me on Skype. I hope he's doing well now.
 
Back when Pokemon XY came out I made a friend with one of the admins on a trading page on Facebook. He was very nice and watched and played a lot of the same stuff as me so we talked about more then Pokemon. Unfortunately he was terminally ill and passed away about a year ago just after Christmas. I think he is the only online friend I've had that I don't talk to anymore and that's only because I cant anymore.
 
Hmm, well my best friend for years was a guy I met online on some game forums, but after several years we eventually just had nothing left to talk to eachother about anymore. We didn't fight or anything, it's just all he ever had to talk about was his job and all I ever had to talk about was school and it's kinda boring to have the exact same conversation every time you talk to someone.

I'm sure he's doing fine but sometimes I kinda miss when we used to be friends and had a lot to talk to eachother about. Although I've got other friends for that. ^^;;

I don't know if this counts but I spent a summer in Washington DC and met a guy through some acquaintances and we became friends. He had a lot of issues though and I kinda got the feeling that he was really depressed. After my, like, month there we became internet friends (which is why I dunno if this counts if we knew eachother in person first), but eventually he just disappeared. Considering his issues I can't help but fear the worst sometimes but realistically I will never know what happened to him. I do hope he's alright and got help for his issues though. He was a good guy and didn't deserve to feel that way about himself.
 
I used to have friends on roleplay wetpaint wikis when I was 10-13 maybe 14 even, and I often get nostalgic in a sad way and wonder how they're doing now.
 
Generally online friends seem to come and go for me, but who doesn't think about their past social relationships sometimes?

- Few people I got familiar with during the wonderful and rosy time of coding your own fan sites from scratch, I had made one about Transformers and started talking with some visitors about the common interest that wasn't so popular in our country back then. These people were nice and inspiring, but apparently personal problems from both sides made me take distance to few and cut some of them completely off with some rude comments in addition to that. I started regretting it some years later, but felt that perhaps it'll be better for me and them if I don't try bothering them with anything, even an apology.

- A friend I had met through a mmorpg. We had fun, goofed around and laughed together about our fails and attempts to do better next time only to fail again. We stayed in touch a bit on-offish way, sometimes still do and plan to redo the old stuff, but I kind of have a feeling our contact is gonna die down. But if that is to happen, gotta accept that everyone walks their own path, and sometimes the path I choose isn't the same as the next good person's one.

- And then, a group of few people I had high hopes about and some common interests with, but little by little I found myself being a target of a narcissist's sick fantasies and emotional abuse. Still not completely sure if one of them was really narcissist or was the behavior more based on some past assumptions, needs to show-off and immature fights, even some vaguely related bullying case, but toxic is toxic nevertheless and I'm not gonna put up with it. All that also made me stronger; not that I don't feel grief and anger sometimes, but it gave me a chance to leave all past bonds behind and learn self-acceptance. Even while it's not likely I'd forget, I'll try forgive eventually, I won't miss them, but I'll be grateful for learning something important from the experience.
 
I have lost friends both online and in-person. I'm not going to name any of them, but I will share a few stories.

- I had a friend I met on a Pokemon server who used to log in occasionally to the servers I frequently visited. She was really fun to talk to, but one day she told me she had really severe schizophrenia which she had been taking medications for. The medications helped mitigate her disorder, but at the cost of her health. Eventually she just sort of disappeared and I never heard from her again.

- Many years ago when I was just a very young child I started a social group on Youtube. It was me and mostly other girls, and we talked about music, life, and pretty much regular things. My friendships with some of these lovely people grew greater, but after a year or so I abandoned the group because there was too much drama. I left my friends too and I will always regret having done so forever. :/
 
I don't really have much to add to this thread, since this forum here constitutes the bulk of my Internet identity. I do spend a lot of time on the Internet, and it's been a presence in my life since I was really little, but most of it is non-socially, especially when I was little. Some of the memories shared in this thread have really gotten to me, though. This is a subject that I think about a lot, even though I can't relate much to it. I just wonder, like, if I died tomorrow then nobody here would have any way of knowing. I also wonder what exactly happens to all of the Web sites I've seen come and go, like if they're still in limbo somewhere in the computer-science-world that I don't comprehend.

My point is, the Internet completely fascinates me, and thinking about what happens when Internet relationships fall apart or are suddenly terminated, that is particularly depressing for me to think about. I'm just sharing this perspective wondering if anybody else here feels the same way. When I think about how really fragile an on-line relationship is, my mind races.
 
I don't really miss too much people. There were a few nice people from GameFAQs such as Magmortar78, _Dog, and kidmf56 who I had to leave behind after I was banned for reasons unknown. Other than that, not really anybody.
 
Yes, one particular person comes to mind.

I met her on this game I won't even bother to mention/explain, and though I had her on my friends list for a while, I had never really talked to her until she sent out a message to everyone on her friends list. A little worried since I had some confidence issues at the time, I sent her back a message saying how I related to her group one, and from there we ended up talking for over two hours just about all the things we had in common and just life experiences.

We were struggling in our own ways but I always looked forward to logging on and talking with her when I could, since she was really one of my only friends at the time, and while I can't say for certain, I know I was really one of the few people she talked to as well.

We continued talking for what was probably a year and in that time we exchanged Skype names and talked on there as well. If we ever had a problem, we were there to confide to each other, and she was even the first person I told some of my actual, big secrets to because I just trusted her that much. Sometime (I forget exactly when) our talks became more sporadic (I was doing a bit better, she was slowly spending less time online) but we enjoyed talking when we did. Eventually we stopped talking all together but left on what I'd like to think are more than good terms. If I'm remembering correctly our last conversation was probably in 2013 though honestly it seems so much longer ago.

I do think about how she's doing from time to time, but mainly I worry about her because she was unfortunately being bullied at her school and was suicidal due to that and a handful of other issues. I just hope she still hasn't kicked the bucket.
 
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Ive had several. Im not gonna name them or anything but Ive had fallings out with almost every internet friend except for people I know here pretty much. Some I stopped talking to for specific reasons and but more just kind of stopped talking to me or cut me off(I dont know all of the exact reasons) but I dont always have great luck with internet friends.

I do think about those I remember often sometimes. It makes me sad that we went our seperate ways but eh it just happens sometimes. I hope it wont keep happening
 
A fellow blogger of mine. We even met offline and she was a good person who had unique life values. We didn't fight or anything - just fell apart as we contacted less and less. I really enjoyed having conversations with her because I felt I could learn a lot from her. I kinda wish I could see her again.
 
I've met quite a few people on Pkmncollectors that I've made friends with but a few of them just disappeared without any warning. Only one that I know of was going through a major depression episode and all I can say is I hope she is doing alright. Last I spoke with her was in 2013.
 
Does anyone know IMVU? Well, my first best friend was on there and we met and we basically talked every single day. Then she got more and more inactive and I haven't seen her for four years. Her name was Ebony and she was rad.

I've lost contact with a lot of friends, too many to mention and I should really try to get back in touch. Later... *picks nose and watches old episodes of Poirot*
 
Before the internet, I only ever really had acquaintances, not really any real friends. When I was 20, I started making friends online. The first one I lost, we technically dated for a couple of months before he ran off with some guy irl without saying anything to me. I never wonder how he's doing or anything, and usually only rarely think about him at all. The next one I lost decided that I was lying to him about my college workload and for some reason assumed that going to a site I had no use for otherwise to RP with him should be prioritized above trying to get through uni and help my depressed at-the-time-best-friend. I don't usually wonder how he is, either, actually.

The next friend I lost was aforementioned previous best friend. He and I had all kinds of long intellectual discussions about... pretty much everything. We had a great time together... too great, apparently. I got a girlfriend and this triggered his depression because it turns out he had feelings for me and yeah eventually that blew up. After things ended between myself and said girlfriend, I tried to reconcile with him, and he's over me now and said we could be friends, but he ignores me most of the time and it just feels distant and unpleasant. I often wonder how he's doing. He was the best friend I had, or at least, that's what I thought.

As touched on there, I lost the girl I was in love with too. She was someone I met online also and after years together she just decided I wasn't worth it. She wanted to be friends after having broken up with me, but watching her try to worm her way into another guy's arms was too much for me. I do still think about her from time to time, but I don't wonder how she is now. I don't let myself.

There's this other girl who was an amazing friend to me while I was getting over my ex, she became the best friend I had since the last one. Her boyfriend was a good friend to me too, or so I thought. Turns out he didn't like me much, so I lost him as a friend and am in much less contact with his girlfriend now as a result. This was fairly recent and I often find myself wondering how the two of them are.

I do think about all of them from time to time, among others. I am very socially awkward, even online, and what relationships I make mean a lot to me. I have yet to forget someone I cared about.
 
lately I have not much time to devote to online life, but I hope not to lose touch with the friends I made on forums, and sometimes i think about some people i befriended, or just exchanged some messages but seem really nice.

And yes, I have a group of friends of my younger years that I lost contact. We used go early mornings talking nonsense and laughing to tears. I think often how their life is going. I have some on facebook, but our lives took different paths: some are extremely focused with children, marriage or career, and mine and I think their interests changed so we have not that much in common, but I wish all the best for them because they are wonderful people.
 
I had a few friends I've drifted apart from; those I don't think of very much.

But sommtimes I think about the people who wronged me and caused our friendship to fall apart, and that makes me angry. I had a friend who had emotionally abused/manipulated me and my girlfriend for years before finally "pruning us from her life." Sometimes I wonder how she's doing, if she's changed at all.
 
In a certain way, I guess I have always wondered what happened to all those people that I have met while playing mmorpg 10+ years ago.

It's not like I was super close to them or anything, but you know, back then you couldn't catch up with anyone via social media or anything like that, and they just disappeared/faded away from your life...
 
I still think about some of the friends I had on deviantART from time to time.
Most of my really good friends on there either deactivated their accounts before I left the site, or deactivated around the same time I left, so therefore I never really got to stay in contact with them after that. A few of my friends are still on there though but I don't have the guts to make another account and talk to them again. They probably can't remember who I am anyway unless I showed them some of my old artworks I uploaded onto the site those many years ago.

I also think about some of the people I met on a Pokemon fan-site called Pokecharms, which I'm sure a lot of you have heard of due to the Trainer Card Maker feature.
Anyway, I didn't really have a whole lot of friends on there, I just knew people -if you know what I mean. Talk to them but not really close enough to be called friends- because a lot of people would comment on my profile and chat to me. The friends on there I did have were pretty special though. Most of them were members I had meet when I first joined the site, but there were a few that I meet a little later on as well. I honestly felt really bad about leaving them behind -as I did with deviantART- but I just felt like I was a burden on the site, so yeah.

Other than that I generally don't really think about or miss past online friends or anything.
 
All the time, especially all the great people from Pokemon Ultra RPG !
 
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