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Having guy problems...

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Okay, it's a bit weird to be posting this here, but I really kinda need advice... Basically, I was born with Asperger's Syndrome, and somehow, as a result, relate better to guys. Normally, this would be a good thing for a girl, but I usually end up becoming "one of the guys" to the guys I befriend, and at that point, even if they did have/could have had prior intrest in me, it becomes awkward for them to actually admit any feelings. I know I don't need a boyfriend to feel complete, but I keep wondering how many relationships I've missed out on because of this. Any advice?
 
I wish I could give some advice, but I have a problem similar to yours: I relate better to guys than to girls, for the most part. I'm always their 'friend' and never their 'girlfriend.'

The only thing I can suggest at the moment is to try and befriend other girls and see what happens.
 
I have Asperger's as well, only for me it's switched around because I'm a guy that's more gentle and timid than one normally is. It is my dream to find a girl and we would fall in love with each other. I do tend to get ahead of myself, though. My therapist suggested the same thing that Barb said. I need to know how to be friends first. However, I haven't had any friends since 4th grade, so you're doing far better than I am. I can't really say how to get out of the friend zone. That is a mystery that will never be solved by the human race. All I can say is if you have feelings for someone, then your heart will tell you what to do.
 
I have exactly the same problem. I think you have to establish a more-than-friends relationship basically from the very first conversation or else you'll get stuck in the friend zone.
 
ChaosRocket is 100% right. The first conversation lays the ground rules for the rest of the relationship, period. Declare your intentions early--or don't declare them at all.
 
ChaosRocket said:
I have exactly the same problem. I think you have to establish a more-than-friends relationship basically from the very first conversation or else you'll get stuck in the friend zone.
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Not necessarily true. It's better to get to know them first, otherwise it'll be creepy.
 
That's just a foolish and idealistic dream. By the time you've gotten to know them, they've already categorized you as just a friend. You can wish for true love all you want, but shallow romance will win every single time. So you have to start up with that stuff right away.
 
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