Qualities You Look For in a Friend

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To put it simply, what quality do you look for in a friend?

For me whether I can trust them is pretty huge. Since I tend to be fairly open with my friends, I don't want them blabbing to my colleagues things I said in confidence.

Another is intelligence. They don't have to be able to discuss Quantum Theory or anything, but I should be able to have an intelligent conversation. Honestly I have stopped talking to a few people over the stupid things they've said, especially when they are just parroting untrue statements or when they don't even understand what they're talking about.

So what about you?
 
I don't have very many friends, but I usually get along with people that are laid-back or just all-around friendly I guess. I'd like to make more friends that share the same interests as me, since there's no one I know in real life that I can discuss my interests with.
 
Let me describe my friends: smart, funny, laid-back, yet energetic, loyal, loving, fun-loving, and sympathetic.

If I was talking to someone I didn't really know, I would just talk about general stuff and slowly bring in my interests into the conversation. I have a few acquaintances who I don't really share interests with, yet I seem to get along with them.
 
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Funny, easy to talk too and likes a lot of the same things as me. I don't really look to friends for emotional support, I get that from my family.
 
- Trustworthy
- Same interests or at least some similar commonalities
- Humour (VERY important)
- Likes me for what I am

And perhaps the most important aspect:
- Someone I can talk with, about anything, about life, about hopes/dreams, daily life, interests, etc.
 
My friend requirements are quite strict, which is why I don't have any offline friends.

My ideal friend should...

> Be able to have both serious and fun conversations. I like to talk about all sorts of topics.
> Be everything and anything; I like people who have many sides to them.
> Make mistakes and have flaws. I don't like perfectionists.
> Be calm most of the time but energetic during others. I don't like constant hyperactive people.
> Not need to have anything in common with me, but my ideal friend would at least respect my interests and vice-versa.
> Be open to ideas, new things, and be at least considerate to other people.
> Like to have fun, but not incessantly groan and moan when they have to put up with things they find boring.
> Have a very unique goal/dream in life.

Aaaand I think that's it. I don't really mind if a friend isn't trustworthy, as I don't put my trust in anyone to begin with. Though, I would appreciate it if they weren't a backstabber.
 
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First thing is first they cannot be overly sensitive or easily offended.

The thing I look for most is loyalty. They also have to be interesting, not stupid, funny and must understand satire.
 
If I can click with them. I mean I don't go around looking for friends with certain requirements. I make friends by interacting with various people. Some you click with them and others you don't.
 
A good friend of mine has to be intelligent. They can't be dumb-as-hell meatheads who waste my time, and they should be able to somewhat hold their own in a mild political discussion. It also helps if they share my interests, such as Star Wars or video games. More importantly, they have to be able to put up with my personality; I tend to be kind of aloof to most people and I have a negative attitude more than often. Also, they have to understand that I never call or text anyone unless absolutely necessary, and thus not be offended by it.

My personality doesn't get me many friends, but the few I do have are all very good. I like quality over quantity, and who'd want a huge group of backstabbing buddies anyways?
 
It really depends on who I click with, really.

I tend to be friends with people who are positive and have the same interests as I do. I just described most of my friends, but there are some exceptions because I have some friends who are not interested in half the things I like yet I get along great with them since they are wonderful, laid-back people. We may not agree on everything as we are human, but it's not often we have disagreements. We go on enjoying life and each other's company, and that's what I really like.
 
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I look for people who aren't superficial. I find that if you're not superficial, everything else comes into place.
 
They gotta be able to get my awkward sense of humour, because people either get it or they don't. Also, just generally be a good person. I'm not really picky beyond that.
 
It depends. Really close friends: have more or less the same hobbies and morals, but just different enough from me to have the friendship be fun and interesting. I have quite a few normal friends who I get a long with and chat with, but can't really become close friends with because we're too different.
 
People who aren't a**holes and decide to ditch me and my sister most of the time.Elementary School was freaking HELL because of that,and the first friend I had at the school won't even look at me now...All because of my personality and interests.,which are so complex,nobody,I repeat,NOBODY,wants to put up with me or my sister because of it.I don't mind,though.I like being alone with her.
 
Someone with a sense of humor, definitely. Someone who isn't cocky or arrogant, or tries to dominate a conversation/bring down your ideas when you 2 have a discussion. Its easier to list the what you don't wants rather than the opposite.
 
Just someone who I can put my full trust in, which is why I consider most of the people I hang around with "aquaintances" even though I spend alot more time with them
then I do by myself.
 
I dunno what I really look for in a friend. People just talk to me, I talk back, then we start hanging out more and boom friends.

I tend to get on better with people who are laid back, down to earth and reasonably smart. I don't expect them to be able to do rocket science or anything, but if they say stupid things all the time I just can't stand them, especially the kind of people who can't recognise when they're saying something really really stupid. People who get easily offended are a bit of a danger zone to me too, I mean I'll be nice to you, but if I feel like I have to watch everything I say to avoid offending you, then I really can't be friends with you. I also can't talk to over-dramatic people - I can be slightly dramatic sometimes, especially when my brothers being a pain in the butt, but when I see people ranting and raging on facebook or in real life, over things that aren't even important or matter that much, it gets super annoying. Like if you complain that you don't get to see your boyfriend for a day, I don't care. Learn to deal with it. I don't drink, do drugs or smoke, I don't care if my friends do (all my friends drink, and some smoke weed) but know that I won't ever join you in doing that, and if someone kept pushing at me to, I'd have to stop being friends with them.


Oh and I'm insanely sarcastic, they need to understand that. It's better if they are too, but I can appreciate a friend who just accepts it and doesn't get offended when I say something sarcastic.

Edit: Oh and I know it sounds weird, but slightly bitchy people. Like the kind you can sit around with and bitch about people you don't like, but you trust them enough to know they won't bitch about you to anyone.
 
Trust is the biggest thing for me, along with loyalty— but they both sort of go hand in hand. I have been ditched by so many people and currently have no friends but my cousins and one I can never see, so I do have trouble with people. I also like a sense of humor and they must be able understand my sarcasm. Also, my affection can come off as... Blunt. I am very honest, yet I also love to tease, so another favorable trait would be a sense of understanding. Of course, similar interests is nice, but differences help people grow.

In short, I look for many things that can be hard to find it seems :/
 
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