Was I being "wise"?

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Okie, so a few things just happened. My parents were being extremely bitter and yelling. I'm thinking they might have anger management issues, but I'm not sure...

Anyway, I said a few joking statements to my mom, and she confiscated my phone. I was okie with it because I don't really spend much time on my phone anymore. But I felt bad since she thought I had been being disrespectful, and so I kept hugging her and apologizing and saying I loved her. So then my dad said he just wanted me to shut up and then said I could have my phone back. But I said that I didn't want it back because I wanted to atone for my disrespectfulness (even though what I said hadn't been serious). Okie, so then I start talking to my mom again and then my dad screams, "SHUT UP! I'm tired of listening to your mouth. I will throw your phone on the concrete and cancel the subscription if I have to."
So, being confused and thinking he meant a different definition of subscription (he wasn't being specific :p), I asked, "What subscription?" Then he looked toward my mom and asked, "Is she SERIOUS?" And then I was like, "Seriously, what subscription?" And, unfortunately, I have this bad habit where I always smile, especially when I get in trouble. So, of course, I was smiling. So then he looks back at me and says, "SERIOUSLY. I don't mind throwing your phone twenty feet up in the air and crushing it." And then I tried explaining my confusion from before, saying, "I'm sorry, I thought you meant a different definition of subscription--"

And then, he interrupts and says loudly, again, "Is she SERIOUS?"
So then my mom and my sister are ordering me to go upstairs. So I do. And along the way, they're talking about how disrespectful I was being and how ridiculous I am and how "wise" I was being.

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Okie? I don't get it. Can't I voice my opinions? Can't I clarify what I meant? Please tell me if you thought this was "wise" or disrespectful because, to me, I think it's unfair treatment since I didn't think I was being disrespectful. Anyway, sorry if this was bratty of me to type, but I'd like to hear some others' opinions on the matter. Also, feel free to post any experiences that you found similar to this.
 
Um, when parents are arguing, it's best to slip out and say nothing. I've been on the receiving end of this before as well and it didn't end well.
 
Ah, they weren't arguing. They were just yelling for no apparent reason. It was very odd o.o
 
Ah... Well, actually, if any person is in a volatile state, it's best to leave them alone. I can understand where you're coming from and all, but when you got involved with it, you kinda got into a lose-lost situation.

But the bright side is, your parents will probably show up soon an apologize and you'll all be one happy family again.
 
I don't think they're gonna apologize because they think I was the one that did wrong...
Oy. We need family therapy -.-
 
Well, if you feel that way about it, your probably right. But if you are intending to bring that subject up with your parents, I suggest waiting a few hours. Or days.
 
I'm not even gonna try o.o Small stuff sets them off easily. A moment ago our dog got loose and ran down the street to freedom. My sister started crying and ran after her quickly. My dad got in the van and drove after her. They finally got her, and my dad threw her in the van. Then he went back to the house, tugged her inside, slammed the door and whacked her fiercely on the head four times, shouting, "Stupid, stupid, stupid!" And then he forced her to go outside. Then, during the next ten minutes, he kept muttering, "Stupid mutt! Never should've gotten that dog! Stupid dog! I would put a bullet in her head in a second! I should!"

*rolls eyes* I'm mad at him for it, so I'm sorry if I'm showing sarcasm or bitterness toward the event at the moment. Also, my parents are usually nice, caring people, but they just get soooo mad soooo easily! It drives me insane! Once again, sorry for complaining Dx
 
Hey, everyone needs an outlet to discuss their life if somethings troubling them. I'm glad to sit and listen.

I'm not sure if you'd feel comfortable with this, but you really should bring this up with your parents if it bothers you that much. Sit them down and lay it out. Sure, they'd probably be mad, but either you stand up and say that they need to chill out or you run the risk of distancing yourself from them later in life. As Shakespeare once wrote, "The evils that men do live after them, the good is oft interred withing their bones."
 
I feel too intimidated to try...but you're right. I'll have to do it sometime. Thank you :) I appreciate everything. Also, that is a very good quote. Thanks again! =DDDDDD
 
My parents are like that... But for the sake of my darling laptop I usually find it best to keep quiet.

Although in this situation, it doesn't sound like you were being wise. But, as with every parent dispute, your argument has to be even a little bit biased. =P

Maybe you should tone down the apologies, but seriously explain that you felt bad about being disrespectful once they've cooled down.


Also, I'm sure you'll get sick of hearing this, but- keep an eye on the poor dog. o_O




... Why are we all saying also so much?
 
True, true. Thanks for your reply! And yeah, I'm looking out for her. She's old, but I'm sure she has a few years left :) Her former owners abused her, but then we rescued her. Soo...everything's okay, but my dad just doesn't like her. Stuff just sets them off really easily xP They're usually kind to just about everybody but they get very bitter. Anyway, thanks! =DDDDDD
 
If they think whacking on the head is okay, maybe you need to talk to a school official. This isn't "anger management" issues. It's abuse, pure and simple. No, it wasn't wise of you to pipe up during a hot moment between them ... but no one deserves the treatment you guys have been getting. Realize that reporting it may turn your family upside down. However, surely there are others who can handle children with love and rationality.
 
Ehhh..... Parents are usually pretty good about things... Except situations such as these, where parents are very annoying, which then brings me to find irony. I find the situation ironic in that if I were you, I would've found my father more annoying than I "was." I would have told him off, for the simple, childish (which makes it utterly humerous) fact that he was annoying me. Don't ever annoy me, or I'll rip your face off, in one way or another.
 
Your parents were probably just having a bad day, and an argument with each other as it sounds. And from your later posts I can see that your father also has an anger management problem. Since you sound like a very happy and upbeat person, your father might get annoyed when he's having a bad day (it's annoying to see happy people when you aren't), and thus gets angry (because he gets angry easily).

And about that "being wise" thing, they probably looked for an excuse to send you to your room. Sometimes when parents lose an argument they just think of an unfair reason so they can "win" the argument. Mostly sending you to your room because your being "wise "or something (happens to me sometimes).
 
What your dad did was completely intolerable. It was disrespectful and random. If he doesn't apologize, he should be ashamed. But perhaps you should wait a few days, and then (not sarcastically) remind him of the situation (you wrote down how the conversation went) and then say that you feel you need an apology. If he refuses semi-politely, then maybe it's safe to give your argument that you gave above.
 
Ah, thank you for your comments. Yes, I agree it was intolerable and completely...bleh. I'm thinking his anger, however, has something to do with his high blood pressure...
Do people with high blood pressure get really angry really easy? I don't mean to offend anyone when asking, but I'm just curious because my mom shouted, "Watch your blood pressure," when he started yelling really loudly. Soo...yeah.
Trust me though, my dad is a good person. But when he yells or gets worked up, it's just...over. He won. You don't disrespect or do any form of disrespect. He's not super strict, but he's strict. I just get so upset when he yells 'cause he's a loud yeller. Overall, he's a caring person that cares for the welfare of others. None of my parents really had a childhood, so I cool down my anger when things start to get out of hand. They work too hard, and they're always stressed.
Anyway, thanks :) I really appreciate the comments. He apologized this morning. (I think it was partly because I burst into tears 7 times >.> I was really emotional. Hormones and stuff...*COUGH* ANYWAY, he apologized and I got Starbucks xDDDD Yayyyy)
 
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