What exactly IS 'open mindness', anyways?

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I'm kinda starting to QUESTION if a life FREE of 'stereo types' and 'accusations' and 'gennerizations' and all that sh*t even...exsist's. I mean...i'm starting to see sign's agenst....:uhoh:

Like...this one soo-called 'friend' I have on AIM...from what I hear, she was pretty 'girly' as a kid...but, somehow, she's a 'nerd' now, or, something, like's shojo manga...AND like's cute things, it's really...weird. She claim's to be open minded, but...I dunno. I keep thinking she...doesn't like me very much or something.:thumbd::bash: Even if she won't exactly say it to my face...*sigh* I dun really know though I kinda just started talking to her a lot. Who know's what goes through her mind...and who know's maybe i'm just paraniod overall.:-/


ALL my more 'nerdy' buddies tell me I have NOTHING to worry about with who I am and what I like, they'll still be able to get along with me...but, how do I know if it's a LIE or not? ;_; I...don't.....and it's hard to tell honisty with some nerds sometimes 'cuz i'm soo different from them:-/ soo, yeah...

And some of the nerds I used to talk to in the past disliked 'girly' people. A lot. Soo, being MYSELF around a lot of people is....scary, to say the LEAST....


And yet, I WANT to be more 'open minded' and feel it's okay to like and be friends with whoever i want...even if i DO have more girlish tastes. But, I often don't even think it's...possable.


Soo, yeah...I need a bit of help here....*sigh* I really a afraid i'm going to end up losing all my friends one day and i'll have no controll over what happon's either...no matter WHAT my intrests are. I really don't wanna feel...doomed...*sigh*

I'm soo confused...i'm trying to work out some ideas in my head as to how to stay friends with certurn people, though....but I have a feeling I should strive for a more 'normal' like soon. If only I knew where my dad was...I should call him sometime....*sigh*



I really am going through A LOT of HELL right now......


On a better note...I think it's okay for me to still like Pokémon.....but I keep re-reading my old 'girliness' topic just to double check and make sure. Soo far, it hasn't failed me YET. But, that doesn't mean I don't have those high expectations....trust me, one day, I just may join some forums that's made espesally just for 'preppy' type people and post, in BOLD letters, a topic that ask's 'DO YOU LIKE POKEMON?!'. And I wouldn't give a damn if I got banned soon afterwards...lol.....


I'm tired....but, I just had to let it all out......*sigh*

~Love, a very hurting and confused PikaJchuu-sparkling-kins....






Also, i'm attached as heck to cute things....kinda......*sigh* Not that it really matter's.

 

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I'm kinda starting to QUESTION if a life FREE of 'stereo types' and 'accusations' and 'gennerizations' and all that sh*t even...exsist's. I mean...i'm starting to see sign's agenst....:uhoh:

Nope. Stereotypes will follow you everywhere. You name something, there's a stereotype for it.

Like...this one soo-called 'friend' I have on AIM...from what I hear, she was pretty 'girly' as a kid...but, somehow, she's a 'nerd' now, or, something, like's shojo manga...AND like's cute things, it's really...weird. She claim's to be open minded, but...I dunno. I keep thinking she...doesn't like me very much or something.:thumbd::bash: Even if she won't exactly say it to my face...*sigh* I dun really know though I kinda just started talking to her a lot. Who know's what goes through her mind...and who know's maybe i'm just paraniod overall.:-/

I don't know what to say to this. Maybe she just thinks of you as a distant friend?

ALL my more 'nerdy' buddies tell me I have NOTHING to worry about with who I am and what I like, they'll still be able to get along with me...but, how do I know if it's a LIE or not? ;_; I...don't.....and it's hard to tell honisty with some nerds sometimes 'cuz i'm soo different from them:-/ soo, yeah...

You don't know if it's a lie, and you won't know, either. They're your friends, therefore, trust them.

And some of the nerds I used to talk to in the past disliked 'girly' people. A lot. Soo, being MYSELF around a lot of people is....scary, to say the LEAST....

Don't be yourself around those certain people, I guess.

And yet, I WANT to be more 'open minded' and feel it's okay to like and be friends with whoever i want...even if i DO have more girlish tastes. But, I often don't even think it's...possable.

I don't think being "open minded" and feeling that it's okay to like and be friends with whomever you want are related. Open-mindedness, in my opinion, is to be accepting of everything.

Soo, yeah...I need a bit of help here....*sigh* I really a afraid i'm going to end up losing all my friends one day and i'll have no controll over what happon's either...no matter WHAT my intrests are. I really don't wanna feel...doomed...*sigh*

What exactly do you need help with? If you have a specific question, I can try my best to answer it. This was sort of confusing to follow, and I replied the best I could...And don't worry. You might or might not lose your friends, but if you do, you'll make new ones. Nobody has control over what happens.

I'm soo confused...i'm trying to work out some ideas in my head as to how to stay friends with certurn people, though....but I have a feeling I should strive for a more 'normal' like soon. If only I knew where my dad was...I should call him sometime....*sigh*



I really am going through A LOT of HELL right now......

There is no such thing as a "normal life". You can't strive for something that doesn't exist. What you may consider to be normal could be abnormal for someone else. In converse, what you may consider to be abnormal might be perfectly normal for someone else.

On a better note...I think it's okay for me to still like Pokémon.....but I keep re-reading my old 'girliness' topic just to double check and make sure. Soo far, it hasn't failed me YET. But, that doesn't mean I don't have those high expectations....trust me, one day, I just may join some forums that's made espesally just for 'preppy' type people and post, in BOLD letters, a topic that ask's 'DO YOU LIKE POKEMON?!'. And I wouldn't give a damn if I got banned soon afterwards...lol.....

Well of course it's fine to like Pokemon! Pokemon has nothing to do with girliness, don't worry about that. And don't join a "preppy person" forum. People there tend to be stuck up.

I'm tired....but, I just had to let it all out......*sigh*

~Love, a very hurting and confused PikaJchuu-sparkling-kins....

Also, i'm attached as heck to cute things....kinda......*sigh* Not that it really matter's.

I like cute things to. Also, I have one question for you. It's a feeling that I got from reading this...Are you gay? You don't have to answer it in the public forum if you don't want to; you could PM me...I was just wondering, because it's the feeling I was getting.