Why is it considered a shortcoming?

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Blackjack Gabbiani

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I'm 25 and live with my parents. Why is this a point of derision for so many people? I see nothing wrong with it. I'm not a mooch, I don't leech off them. I pay rent, I assist them with stuff, and the things they aid me with money-wise are the same things they help my sister with, who lives with her boyfriend. Why do people think they can get away with taunting someone for living with their parents at my age when they wouldn't taunt someone for living with their lover or a friend or any other form of roomate? What is it about parents that makes it so wildly different?
 
People are just fixated on independance. Part of the idea of stereotypical adulthood is striking it out on your own, I think.
 
Living with your parents conveys the image that you're not weaned off of them (because you're not) and that you can't handle the real world on your own.

And yes, 25 is too old to be living with your parents, even if you're living in a completely seperate apartment in the same building.
 
Personally, I see nothing wrong with living with your parents, even if you're 50. But people are like that =P.

I'd do it if I could. But I just can't live with my parents =P (Don't get along).
 
But what *makes* it too old? Forcing the kids out is a fairly recent convention, as it was just in the past hundred years that you were expected to live with your parents for their entire lives.

And again, what makes it different from living with any other roomates?
 
Because they're, well, not your parents.

Managing a household with non-family is a very big sign of independance and self-reliance.
 
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But what *makes* it too old? Forcing the kids out is a fairly recent convention, as it was just in the past hundred years that you were expected to live with your parents for their entire lives.

And again, what makes it different from living with any other roomates?
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Because you've been theoretically out of college for 3 years, more than enough time to save money and earn enough to get out of there. If you *don't* want to get out of there, that's even worse, as any potential gf/bf will see you as someone who will obey their parents before all else and doesn't desire independence.

Living with other roommates is completely different. You made a concious decision to leave the nest, you have your own place (which also has its own connotations, of course), and even if you live with a roommate, you've shown a desire for some level of independence.
 
Well, I see a point in the relationship part -parents usually meddle in their son's or daughter's relationships (which is annoying >.<). And if you're still living with them, they're likely to meddle/dislike something about it. And I that like my own gender...my mom/dad would definitely not be comfortable with that =P.
 
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But I have no interest in dating, so why should it matter?
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If you don't care what other people think, if your parents let you do whatever you want in the house, etc. then it's not a problem. However, I'd love to get drunk and bring over a girl.. That's not possible in my house ._.;
 
I throw parties without their permission. As long as I don't make a mess outside my room and I pay my rent, they don't really care.

And as far as prying, sure they pry, but they also pry with my sister.
 
How old is your sister? I'm not trying to make a point or anything- I'm just wondering.
 
I see it more as a matter for the parents when it comes to children moving away from home.
They've been taking care of their child(ren) for over 18 years, so being able to have their home for themselves would probably be great.

But then again, I'm just thinking from my stand, and I'm the type who wants to live on my own.

But if your parents show no distress at having you living with them still, then I see no problem really.
 
Here, where the extended family still factors somewhat, you don't live with your parents... your parents live with you. My maternal grandparents are living with my single aunt, a pediatrician; my paternal grandmother is living with my married uncle - she takes care of his daughter, since both he and his wife work. Before this uncle got married, he lived in our house, and before he had his daughter, his mother lived with us.
 
I don't really see it as a problem. I live with my mom because she takes care of my kids after school and I couldn't afford a house in this market. There are plenty of adults who live with their parents even after being out of the home; I think their classification is 'boomerang children'.
 
Gotta take into account today's job market around the US of A. Several of my friends and I who are in our early to mid 20s still live at home. One friend lives above his grandfather in an apartment. It's just how things are for some 20somethings. Some managed to get out and get jobs and apartments a hell of a lost easier in the Clinton years.

My brother and his wife is an example of that. They managed to find a way out before the Clinton era ended and now live in VA. As for me, there's no where to go. Housing in my town is VERY, VERY expensive. Housing elsewhere is also a problem as well as gas prices and such. As a resuult, many people even as old as 30 still have some stuff at their parents' house because of the job market.

Today's society makes it a stigma when people live at home. But, there's no shame in it if you help out around the house. Also, sometimes parents might not be able to take care of themselves so you have to sacrifice a lot.

So, to put it bluntly, Job market in the US sucks, house costs are obscenely high as is gas. Some people have to stick around though. Don't worry too much about it, BJ. It's not that big a deal. Only thing that could fix it is an economic shift. But, the country's in deep now so who knows if it can bounce back.

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